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[–] ThreeWheel 0 points 30 points (+30|-0) ago 

Of course, if you know that society as whole thinks male directed domestic violence is a joke, police won't take it seriously and you are that way inclined, what's to stop you. The sad part is that for many men that this happens to (and I guess many women who are the victims of domestic violence as well) think that they deserve it. Any man that's hits a women is justifiably ostracised and condemned by society, the same equality in accountability needs to be directed to women that perpetuate this violence as well. Unfortunately we are still a fair off from this happening and I imagine that when many women discuss instances of this among their friends the whole. "You go girl!" attitude is all too common.

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[–] give-it-a-try 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago 

I've spoken with 2 policemen officers about this, one in CA the other in ID, and each said that women seem to be more violent when they lose their cool. They also said that the only time they do nothing is when the victim doesn't want to press charges.

But that was about 10 years ago so idk if anything has changed since then.

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[–] dragonsarefake 0 points 26 points (+26|-0) ago  (edited ago)

TL;DR

More than 200 studies have found that women initiate at least as much violence against their male partners as vice versa. The main study, which surveyed 11,000 men and women, found that, according to both men’s and women’s accounts, 50 percent of the violence in their relationships was reciprocal (involving both parties). In those cases, the women were more likely to have been the first to strike. Moreover, when the violence was one-sided, both women and men said women were the perpetrators about 70 percent of the time.

Now that we've established both genders are just as likely to be victims of domestic abuse, here comes the punchline: 94% of the total convicted for such offences were male (2008-2009)

WTF? This is a fucking joke.

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[–] effusive_ermine 1 points 10 points (+11|-1) ago 

Long held gender stereotypes dictate that men are strong/aggressive and women are weak/vulnerable.

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[–] notawhitesupremacist 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

It's probably related to the level of damage inflicted. Women kill their partners at a way lower rate.

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[–] noblefool 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

I'd be interested to see a study done on this. Don't know if it'll ever be done though, pretty hard to get funding for something like that with the fervor that Women's rights have kicked up I would think.

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[–] Cynical_Alien 1 points 6 points (+7|-1) ago 

Ok yeah I get that women hit men much more often, but with my girlfriend I let her hit me all the time because I really don't feel it. I mean come on I have like 50lbs of muscle mass on her she couldn't even stab me if she tried so I really see no problem with that. We should be more concerned when the woman is bigger than the man, because then it could get dangerous/abusive.

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[–] Nordlingpeasant 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago  (edited ago)

It's not even if the woman is bigger than the man. It's if she is doing damaging things too the man. Most of the time woman can't really do much physically and it's not much of a problem. The fact that a girl is hitting someone shows that she is a little unstable or can't deal with her emotions properly. I can put up with a girls hits every now and again, but if it becomes the norm, and doesn't even hurt me than I'm going to break up with them for acting like a child and hitting me every time we have an argument or something.

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[–] Cynical_Alien 1 points 0 points (+1|-1) ago  (edited ago)

My gf hits me when I tease her (which is often) and pretty much never else. This is because she knows that if she ever disrespects me seriously I'm the alpha in our relationship and will not let it slide. I told her that if she ever raises her voice at me in public she'll never see me again so now she knows her place. Come on guys women are easy.

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[–] Seeker74 1 points 2 points (+3|-1) ago 

Are you trolling? Extra muscle mass does not reduce the nerve's ability to perceive and reflect pain, nor does the pain tolerance of the recipient of abuse negate the wrongdoing of the abuser.

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[–] Cynical_Alien 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

For the first point I can only speak from experience and I think as I kept working out and gained muscle mass my pain tolerance went up, but that may have more to do with the pain of exercise conditioning me. For the second no it doesn't, but we should look at intent of the hit much more. I have never hit my gf but she has hit me hundreds of times, still neither one of us has ever physically disrespected each other.

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[–] notawhitesupremacist 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

Yeah, a woman slaps a man it might sting but she's hardly likely to do serious damage. Men can dislocate a womans jaw doing the same thing.

Also, if she gets really violent you have the strength to defend yourself way better than if it's vice versa.

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[–] Cynical_Alien 1 points 0 points (+1|-1) ago 

Nice research, although I could see how the statistics could be skewed by guys simply not reporting serious assault by women I also think that we should just drop the stereotypes and report serious assault no matter the gender. We can't just say that a woman throwing a smack is any kind of assault really unless she has considerable muscle mass on you as a dude, but then you should call the police right away.

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[–] Scotcheggs 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

Women aren't held accountable though. Men have to be infallible while women are given liberty to act irrationally and volatile. That is what seems to be for social and legal implications.

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[–] Kleyno 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

One thing I have learned in my short life, is that women are very adept at verbal abuse.

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[–] jeegte12 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

That seems to be like an entirely different issue. Something that should probably stay 100% in the home.

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[–] ScientistSupreme 3 points 3 points (+6|-3) ago 

Speaking as a married man, i flinch and cover my groin if my wife makes any sudden movements.

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[–] CaptainSweater 1 points 19 points (+20|-1) ago 

Speaking as a married man, you should have never fucking married her in the first place if she's that disrespectful to you and your body.

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[–] effusive_ermine 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

Speaking as a man who has been burned by cigarettes held in a woman's fist, I feel you.

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[–] Firevine 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

If my wife tried that shit, she would find herself as not my wife as quickly as possible.

When we were dating, she had a tendency to slug me in the shoulder or something every so often. She said "It's because I grew up with four brothers". I said it's because she's an idiot with no self control, and started popping her back if she hit me. Shit ended fast.

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[–] ScientistSupreme 1 points -1 points (+0|-1) ago  (edited ago)

It wasn't meant as a joke, so i care if it sounds okay.

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[–] cattarhero 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Yeah, women take full advantage of the double standard, as usual. There was a video going around a while back where a woman kept assaulting a guy following an argument in the street, attempting to get the guy to hit her. Finally, the guy had enough and punched her in the mouth and busted her lip. She immediately called the police to have him arrested "for hitting a poor defenseless woman". Fortunately, it backfired on her when the officers were shown the video and realized that she was the actual aggressor and she was arrested instead. Unfortunately, in most cases there is no video and the woman's story is the one believed. I've lived through something like this but I didn't take the bait and got off with a few bruises and scratches but no domestic violence conviction!

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[–] Draegur 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

An odd gender dimorphic trait though is that when men are the recipients of violence, they tend to either:
a) immediately disconnect emotionally, exit the area, and cut off all contact, or
b) fight back and severely injure their assailant, then get saddled with all the blame.

There are the rare few that sit there and take it like the stereotypical 'battered woman'.

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